1918- MALE GAY PROSTITUTE?
Let’s pick up a little from the
last post or 2.
The other day at the mission I
had an old friend- who I haven’t talked to in a while- just show up.
We hung out for a little while-
and he told me how ‘so and so’ burned him real bad.
Burned- he ‘screwed him over’
type of thing.
I heard the story- and of course
I was mad at the other friend.
Yet- my other friend was not
around- so I tried to let it drop.
But- to be honest- it bothered me
for a couple of days.
Then I saw his girlfriend- and
she did the same thing.
Now- at one point I actually
laughed- because my friend- who I have known for 20 years- is what you would
call a classic case of being Homophobic.
That is- whenever he has a
problem with someone- he most of the time accuses them of either being gay- or-
a homosexual/lesbian prostitute [as in if the simple accusation of prostitute
isn’t enough].
Now- because I know this friend
well- I take it with a grain of salt.
But- I did tell my wife a few
days ago ‘you know my friend ‘so and so’ I mean he has the classic case of
Homophobia.’
He just had an argument with his
girlfriend- and sure enough- he tells me he thinks she’s hiding something- he
thinks she might be a secret lesbian prostitute.
So- as I’m talking to his girlfriend-
without revealing the accusation- she tells me ‘you know John- he is totally
gay- he is a repressed homosexual- he does not know how to please a woman…’
On and on- about him being a
closet homosexual.
Now- first off- I have gay
friends- I help gay friends- so this post is not about being gay.
But I laughed because my 2 friends-
who both have issues- also resort to this accusation- about one another.
I told my friend one day that
years ago- as kids [maybe 16?] me and a friend were going to do a stupid thing.
We went to the local park late at
night [Hudson County Park to my friends from N.J.]
And we were going to rob and beat
up a gay person.
We recruited a local drunk from
the area- he was about 30 years old.
We told him the plan- and we
went.
We never carried it out- though
my other friend did just get out of prison in N.J. - for another very serious
crime.
Yet I told it to my friend
because he was bringing up past attitudes about gay people and for some reason
this came up.
He tells me years later ‘John-
you might be a repressed homosexual- because you told me you guys tried to mug
a gay guy’.
So- that’s my friend.
Purpose- lesson?
In reality some of the street
guys are indeed male prostitutes.
Many are addicted to drugs- and
they do make money this way.
I don’t see them in that light-
one of the guys has been with us these past few weeks- and we have had discussions
about the Lord and he was with us when we prayed for my friend in the hospital-
so he was around us the whole time.
Which I felt was good for him- to
spend the day doing things that were positive.
Even though I had to laugh when
my friend’s girlfriend dropped the accusation- during the talk she also shared
about her experiences.
How she was not looking for a
relationship- she is an older lady- and a Christian.
But she met my friend- she thought
he was a good looking guy- and one thing lead to the next.
I told her ‘gee- I would like to
agree with you that so and so is a good looking guy- but the way you guys throw
around the ‘gay male prostitute’ thing- I better not say anything.’
I was tempted to ‘disown’ my buddy
for a few days- you know- having various people all volunteer to tell me bad
stuff about him.
But instead I chose to brush it
off- maybe some accusations are true- maybe not.
I don’t know all the facts about
each person’s situation.
But I’m glad I shrugged it off-
because it was the same week that I was told that this friend sees me as his
mentor- that he can’t stop saying good things about me- which I had no idea he
looked up to me that much.
He is about 5 years older than
me- and he often speaks bad about brother Rey- a street preacher who helps the
poor.
So- all in all- I’m glad I stuck
with him.
Hopefully I’ll see him today- he was
stranded last week- and I’m not sure if he made it back to town.
Pray for people- I know a few of
the guys do resort to bad stuff when they need cash.
Some of the girls are indeed
prostitutes- they don’t hide it- many of them are real friends- they are nice
people- who are involved with lifestyles that are not good- lifestyles they do
need to change- I make no excuses about that.
But do your best to not let what
others might say effect you- it would have been bad if I ‘dumped’ my buddy
because of what I heard- and later found out that he held me in high esteem.
It would have hurt him.
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